Very few of us were raised with a goo understanding of how to cope when we feel “stuck” (bored, hopeless, dissatisfied) in relationships. The reality though, is that every relationship moves through stages over time, and sometimes, things feel all (or somewhat) wrong. You might be fantasizing about how things could be different.
Do you want your partner to understand you better or really “see” you?

Have you been having the same conversations (about sex, money, or communication) on repeat for years?

Maybe an outside perspective could help—sooner rather than later.

Betrayal looks entirely different now than in any decade prior. Whether it’s an online emotional affair, use of pornography (interactive or otherwise), or a physical infidelity, temptation and availability has never been higher for those who are married or in committed relationships. Without the capacity to talk about their needs, couples are struggling more to keep intimacy and their values intact.

Are you beating yourself up for staying with a partner who has cheated, or considering leaving because he/she/they have?

Are you seeking an answer for why you engage in behavior that damages trust and hurts your partner?

There is a level of intimacy and responsibility that exists in a couple’s lifestyle, which can set that dynamic apart from other types of relationships. Many couples experience ebbs and flows in their ability to feel connected to one another, and in conjunction with fulfilling their responsibilities and shared trajectory in life. With added pressures, stressors, and obstacles, it’s common for couples to project, displace, or blame each other, which often creates a wedge in the relationship. Those wedges are clearly evident as we witness separation and divorce rates increasing.

In addition, our society and culture supports social media and offers an array of dating sites that are accessible to anyone, which can broaden the pool, and sometimes is received as threatening to a couple, who may be searching outside of their relationship to escape, rather than heal the underlying wounds within their relationship. So often, we’ll hear a couple who has split up say, “we just grew apart,” though many can still wonder if they gave up too soon or too easily, which can lead to regret, tension, or resentment.

At Denver Colorado Counseling we recognize the value in having professional support to identify dysfunctional and maladaptive patterns that are affecting a couples’ ability to grow simultaneously. Our mission is to assist couples work through the unresolved, deepen their awareness of how an individual’s shadow can negatively affect the collective, and build healthy communication tools and therapeutic practices to enhance their relationship.

Some of the most common examples are communication problems, daily life stressors, hectic work schedules, infidelity, and the profound changes fostered through parenthood.

—Perhaps you believe the way you and your partner feel about each other has drastically changed over time.  You might have no idea why, or you might have some possibility explanations for what seems to be an increased divide in your connection, appreciation, and love for one another.  Couples therapy can help you and your partner figure out what caused you both to drift apart.  From there, couples therapy can be instrumental in assisting you both in agreeing on the best ways to bring you back together to your status as that amazing couple.

—- Maybe you find the problems tend to be in your continual fighting.  You notice that even the smallest, seemingly insignificant things can lead to an eruption of chaos in the way you both talk with each other.  In these instances, you might find you and/or your partner saying things you simply do not mean about one another and feeling guilty later for making these regrettable remarks.  Here, couples therapy can help you get a better idea of how these conflicts begin, so you are more aware and cautious around these “hot, triggering” topics.  From there, couples therapy can provide you with a wide variety of critical, healthy tools so you and your partner can engage in effective communication and conflict management.

Regardless of where the pain originated in your relationship, couples therapy can help you do what is often so hard to do on your own: understand and resolve your problems, thereby establish or reclaim the mutually rewarding and healthy relationship you and your partner deserve.

Whether or not your relationship’s struggles and possible solutions are discussed above, please know that we can help.  Now is as good a time as any to let us help you reclaim or gain happiness, intimacy, crucial skills, friendship, and desired bonding in your relationship.